MARAWI CITY (MindaNews / 5 Sept)—I am a single mother and I know and have experienced many fears and emotions faced by solo parents. Our greatest fear is probably seeing our children getting sick. That is the crucial time we need a support system, and we thank the high heavens when a family member or a friend is there to sympathize with us.[]
Another fear we face is financial difficulty and stability because we may not be able to put enough food on the table, pay educational necessities, hospital bills or household obligations, or buy vitamins and medicines. I am blessed that I have a supportive family whom I can always run to when I face a parental crisis, but I can’t help but feel sad and anxious for those single mothers who can barely make ends meet and have no one to run to. How do they cope? Do they have rights and privileges to address their needs?
It was my personal experience as a single mom that made me want to advocate for the rights of solo parents. With the help of the Lanao del Sur Provincial Gender and Development (GAD) Office headed by Ms. Alliah Lucman, I pooled a group of single mothers in Marawi City and we discussed the usual plight of solo parents in our province.
During our focused group discussion, we discovered that aside from financial and emotional hardships, single mothers experience stigma. One discussant said that female divorcees in the Meranaw society are most of the time stereotyped by many as women who are on the lookout for another husband when they start grooming themselves. The term they say is “di mamimituwanen.” And if female divorcees do not practice self-care, they are said to be “mimboko” or mourning for the past marriage or yearning for the ex-husband.
One member of the group uttered there are some women who would rather endure an abusive marriage than become divorcees and be frowned upon by society. Our GAD focal person stated there is a need to empower women to escape being stigmatized, traumatized and abused. Ms. Jhohanessa Lucman, the social worker in the group, said there are laws for solo parents in the Philippines and they just need to be localized. These laws are Republic Act 8972 or The Solo Parents’ Welfare Act of 2000 and R.A. 11861 or the Expanded Solo Parent Act of 2022.
Once R.A. 11861 is localized in Lanao del Sur, municipal social workers will be mandated to issue solo parent identification cards (SPIC) and booklets to rightful beneficiaries. Certain establishments and institutions in the province will be forced to give discounts to qualified solo parents, and municipal government units will be obligated to provide monthly allowances to them to be taken from their GAD funds.[]
